It does affect me to know that
you're in pain, or
sad,
lonely, or
despressed. And
I want to help. And I'll try to,
if you'll let me.
You can get to the point where you are over whatever it is that ails you. Philippians 4:13. God can heal you.
I don't want to be blistfully unaware that you're alone and in need of a friend, and I want to use my energy to help you.
Preacher: "You know before I got married, Emily come by some times to help me clean out my apartment. Well, I asked her, how come you are so eager to help clean up my place, when your place is just as bad. She said, 'because cleaning up your place helps me to forget what a mess I have made of mine and when I sweep my floor, all I have done is sweep my floor, but when I help you clean up your place, I am helping you.' Of course, the way I lived back then sometimes the mess was to much for both of us, but it sure was nice to have the company." - (Babylon 5 episode)
I also feel obliged to hold myself responsible. What kind of friend (Yeah, I know it's just E2, but...) would I be if I felt otherwise? There are people who care about you and want to help you, but the ball is in your court.