Whiskeydaemon

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Tue Mar 25 2008 at 15:55:38 (8 months ago )
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Sun Nov 23 2008 at 19:41:59 (1.3 hours ago )
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Indian Rhythms for Drumset

Some biker wisdom for the ages:

Friends come and go - enemies accumulate.
It's not road rage - I'm going to fuck you up because you're stupid.

E2's most hated returns in a hopefully quieter, gentler configuration. I welcome constructive criticism and advice.

Money may not buy you happiness, but it can certainly buy you a better class of misery. - Count Duckula

THE life changing quote:

"Okay. I think you don't have very much empathy. You want to, and maybe you think you do, but when you try to be "nice" (by your notion of how to be nice), you wind up being condescending.

Your problem is not that you're too nice; it's that you think you're nice, and you're not. I think you don't deal well with ambiguity or irony, and so there are a lot of layers to what people are saying and doing that you're missing; so I think you try to compensate for this by making a lot of assumptions, preconceptions, inferences, and imputations about what other people want you to do or want you to be, and then you go looking for opportunities to "help" them according to this notion you've built up for yourself about what you're going to give them.

You aren't going to get to know anyone better by making unwelcome displays of all the things you think you can fix for them or save them from, especially not when you think you're saving them from themselves. You don't get to appoint yourself anyone's big brother or protector or confidant. That's intrusive and disrespectful. If you want to connect with people, connect over common interests and values, not over what you think their problems are, or how nice you think you are."
- Message from a senior noder here

SECRET SANTA ADVICE: If you've got me on your list- my suggestion is to make a donation, however small or large, to a charity of your choice. You don't have to make it to a formal charity - an extra $5 to your religious institution as they pass around the collection plate - buying a slice of pizza for a homeless person or a formal donation to an organisation fighting for political change or a cure for a disease or justice.

I don't even ask that they send me any kind of receipt. I totally will believe that you did it. It doesn't have to be in my name, either. Just do something awesome for someone who could use it. If nothing appears in my mailbox, I won't be bummed out in any way. Everyone here is an honorable human being. And it's a suggestion, not a dictate.