Y'know, it took me
five years to find someone who could give
good head. Really, I thought there was something wrong with
me, by this point. With everyone talking about
blowjobs as if they were
the holy grail of sexual interaction, and my own perception that they were
overrated, it was a bad scene.
Actually, while I'm on the topic, one of the few things more
rare than someone who gives
good head, is someone who knows how to give a
good handjob.
I mean, it's unfair, I suppose... Most men who're going to be getting handjobs have had at least
a few years solo practice at it, and expecting someone else,
especially someone who doesn't have
a penis of their own to practice on to compare... Well, it's not gonna happen.
But that's a whole other
node in itself...
In any case, I think that
Ophie's assumption that
bad head is better than no head is part of the problem. (Nothing personal, Ophie!)
What if men thought this way? What if men said "Was it better than no sex? Good. Then SHUT UP" after a particularly poor session of sex, to the female in question. It'd be just a little rude...
Giving good oral sex is a skill to be cultivated, and it doesn't come naturally to 99% of women (or men) out there. And, as
PoM touched upon, if you're not comfortable talking about the fact that his dick is in your mouth, you're not going to do a very good job, probably.
Giving oral sex is worth the effort to learn, people. That goes for men, too. I haven't looked at the
alt.sex FAQ in a few years, but I recall that being a good first resource, being written by
Elf Sternberg and all...Or, just use
a partner, and
communication. Probably better that way.